Kelly's Law On Friend With Benefits

"Sex without love is merely healthy exercise." ~ Robert A. Heinlein

I guess its important to define the term "friends with benefits". In many cases a couple with this type of arrangement has a lot in common and enjoy each other's company outside of the bedroom. The only thing that differentiates this from a platonic friendship are the "benefits"...which normally include sexual intercourse or other sexual transactions. The key is that both individuals have some pleasure out of the exchange and you two can still be cool afterwards. 


A Booty Call is NOT the same a friend with benefits.   The difference here is the mutuality. In a "booty call" situation, one party reaches out to the other when in need and there is an exchange but mutual pleasure is no guarantee. There's also no real communication prior, during, or afterwards. A booty call knows that he or she is a booty call and there is minimal chance for complication.


Beware of INTIMACY. Intimacy is often wrongly defined as a physical act between lovers but in reality it simply describes the connection or closeness between 2 people. When you're simply friends with someone and also having sex with them, it often times becomes complicated because either party may fall victim to the intimacy that comes along with a real friendship. Intimacy + sexual attraction = LOVE.


Therefore to achieve a successful "friends with benefits" relationship, its best to just be friendly rather than be true friends. ~Kelly's Law