“And I shall find some girl perhaps, and a better one than you,With eyes as wise, but kindlier, and lips as soft,but true, and I daresay she will do”Rupert Brooke
While we have all been through break ups, how we carry ourselves in the days, weeks, or months following says a lot about our character. As women, we tend to be more forthcoming with our weaknesses in these times and often indulge in vengeful or spiteful behavior as a way of coping. At the end, we can chalk it up to grief and as time passes our passion decreases in the process commonly known as moving on. A small percentage, however, might go as far as to lose our dignity, and that may be the greatest loss of all.
Lose the man, but never your dignity. But you accomplish just that when you allow things that should no longer matter to affect your attitude and actions. Don't ever claim a man who doesn't claim you as his woman. He changed his status, he's seeing other women (without hiding it), and for all intents and purposes he's behaving as a single man. The new woman in his life is NOT to blame. This one I understand because its so easy to deflect the blame onto someone you don't know or care for. Its easy to say "if not for her, I might still have a chance..." but you're lying to yourself. Truth is you're not together because he wasn't faithful or because you weren't faithful. Either way, you both must take responsibility for the part you both played in its failure. This new girl (assuming she isn't a friend or family member) owes you no loyalty and has no interest in your (the ex girlfriend's) happiness. You are in control of your own happiness. So your relationship failed. It happens to the best of us. But that doesn't mean you are no longer entitled to happiness or that he should be able to dictate it. No one person should be able to control that except you.
Own your anger, grief, & heart ache. Own your sadness. Then move on. Own your growth, maturity, and experiece and ultimately your happiness, with or without him ~Kelly's Law
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