One of life's mysteries will always be how sensible, level-headed people seem to lose all composure once they're emotionally influenced. Women in particular, as is our nature, commonly follow this behavior and I have yet to understand how some of the most successful women just can't seem to get it right. Too many times I've seen (or experienced myself) women who are driven and focused in all other avenues of life. You see these educated women with progressive careers who are classy, ambitious, able to make practical choices. But then along comes Mr. I Know How to Look Like Mr. Right and none of the rules we used to get where we are seem to apply. While there are some women who's lives are just as whimsical and unstable as their relationships, they simply have more growing to do in general and to put it bluntly, cannot have too much expected of them. But it's the good women who make bad choices that I want to consider.
Part of the problem, I believe, is this balance struggle between a woman's "role" versus her own personal ambitions and goals. We desire to be independent and self sufficient if necessary yet still sometimes need to feel that it's not all on us. So while we are capable of holding that globe on our shoulders, deep down we don't want to do it alone.What a lot of us don't understand is that we don't have to either. We most certainly have the right to want to be made complete by a significant other but must somehow understand that the 2 don't have to contradict each other. We can be strong partners while still allowing a man to feel like a man at the end of the day.
So while we enjoy the power we have in our roles in independent life, we too easily relinquish it at that first heart flutter. Very little emotion is required to progress at work or in school, so our reserve overflows and spews out once a potential match comes along. Then these 2 parts of the same person somehow get disconnected. The logic and reasoning used to progress does not translate once that dopamine begins to flow. Outside of a relationship, we know that if I want to achieve A, B, C, I must follow steps 1, 2, 3 systematically, no exceptions, no shortcuts. Yet in a relationship, we know we want D, E, F but settle for D & E alone meanwhile fabricating excuses for why we don't necessarily need F. Until we are in a place where our partner is no longer accountable for anything. Our emotions have taken over and logical reasoning is irrelevant when compared to how we "feel".
Kelly's Law: In the same way that we did not settle for below average education or careers, we must also hold our men & relationships to the same standards and goals for the same level of success. It is so easy to allow our feelings to dictate that part of our lives while everything else is handled rationally. One thing that is certain, however, is that every thing that happens to us is a result of decisions and choices we have made to that effect. Once you discover who you are, own it. And if you're not satisfied with that person, change it. But essentially you must take responsibility for the choices you make because you have no control over how other's react to you. You can be a great woman if you simply chose to do be one.
